Habits happy couples have that unhappy couples don't.
Do you ever feel like you and your spouse are just going through the motions?
Maybe you're not as connected as you used to be. If so, you're not alone.
A lot of couples find themselves in this situation. But the good news is that there are things you can do to change it.
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Despite what the world tries to portray about marriage, there are many Christian couples who are happy and content in their relationships. You are probably one of them too. They may not flaunt it on TikTok or Instagram- it's just something that they do naturally, without ever having to think about it.
In fact, if they were to start talking about these habits, it would honestly feel a little bit weird because they've become such an integral part of how they function as a couple.
Habits happy couples have that unhappy couples don't.
Here are a few of them:
1. They pray together regularly. When couples pray together on a regular basis, they enjoy a number of benefits that can strengthen their relationship. Praying together helps to create a shared bond of spirituality between the two partners. This can be particularly helpful in times of difficulties or trials, as it provides couples with a sense of comfort and reassurance.
Couples who pray together often find that their communication improves, as they learn to express themselves more openly and honestly with each other. Prayer can also provide couples with a sense of purpose and direction, as they seek to align their lives with God's will. .
2. They make time for each other every day. It is often said that marriage is hard work. And while that may be true, it is also one of the most rewarding experiences you can have in life. A successful marriage requires dedication and effort from both partners. One of the most important things you can do for your marriage is to make time for each other. This doesn’t mean that you need to spend hours together. Even just a few minutes of quality time can make a big difference.
There are many ways to make time for your spouse, such as taking a walk together, sharing a cup of coffee in the morning, taking night baths together, face timing during lunch breaks at work, or simply sitting down and talking about your day. The key is to find what works for you as a couple and make it a priority. By making time for each other every day, you can nurture your relationship and keep your marriage strong.
“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” - Eph. 5:33
3. They communicate effectively. Communication is one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship. Without communication, couples will struggle to understand each other's needs and wants.
The author of The Five Love Languages for Couples said that communication is essential for a couple's relationship to thrive. He believes that communication should be open, honest, and frequent. When couples communicate effectively, they are able to understand each other better and resolve conflicts in a more productive manner.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1
4. They keep their disagreements private. We live in a social media fiasco where we give every Tom, Kola, and Sade, access to scroll through the pages of our lives as we do with other people’s lives too. Unfortunately, that picture or post may miss out on context that could be misunderstood or misinterpreted by the “feeders”.
Taking your disagreements to social media may not always be the best option. Choosing to tackle your differences in your home or in the company of a qualified counselor/professional is a better option.
We guard our front doors and add passcodes on our phones - so why do we crave other people’s approval and let their unsolicited opinions ruin our relationships?
5. They have sex regularly. Sex is a gift, holy and fun! Couples that nurture and cherish each other’s bodies, serving the other person, and making each other laugh create an environment where sex can be enjoyed with abandon. In order to have sex that is both holy and fun, couples need to keep God at the center of their relationship.
When sex is based on love, mutual respect, and a desire to please one’s partner, it can be a beautiful expression of the couple’s love for each other. In addition, sex can be a fun way to play and explore one another’s bodies.
Couples who approach sex with a sense of humor and adventure are more likely to find it enjoyable.
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